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“Anal toys? No way, not for me. I’m straight.” Sound familiar? Is it you? If so, you really don’t know what you’re missing. The male prostate gland (otherwise known as the P-spot - I'll be using both terms) is what provides the ejaculate that mixes with your sperm and makes cum. You probably didn’t come here for a biology lesson, but the reason I mention it is this - because of its direct connection to the action, the prostate is rich in stimulating nerve endings, making it one of the most sensitive male erogenous zones. Many men say that an orgasm through P-spot stimulation is more intense than an orgasm from traditional masturbation. In most cases, P-spot stimulation in combination with stroking of the cock will bring one to an orgasm unlike any experienced before.
Let’s get something straight now: sticking something in your ass doesn’t mean you want to have sex with guys. It doesn’t mean you’re gay to want to enjoy yourself. Your ass is yours to enjoy however you’d like to. Face it, we men have never really cared what people might think about what we do to ourselves in private anyway.
You might be worried that it’s going to be messy. Here's another biology lesson - The rectum doesn’t store fecal matter. It’s only there temporarily, on it’s way out. If you have a bowl movement within an hour prior to play and clean yourself up, there’s really nothing to worry about. At times there may be a little residue, but just keep a towel or something nearby for a discreet, quick cleanup.
Now you might be asking, "So how do I stimulate my prostate?" Good question, I'm glad you asked. Locating the P-spot is very similar to locating the female G-spot. If you haven't read the article on G-spots you should check it out sometime. I'd also like to point out that most G-spot toys make good P-spot toys too. But we have toys designed just for us, so don't go stealing all her toys. In most cases, the prostate can be found by using a finger, but because of the angle, that might be a little difficult to do on your own. So if you're exploring by yourself, you may need a toy. The prostate is located just behind the pubic bone, at the base of the bladder. Think of it as being just behind your cock. Begin by lying on your back and relaxing. The sphincter is usually very tight, especailly if you're tensed up. If you're trying this for the first time you may be very tense, and understandibly so. But just think about how good you're going to feel and allow yourself to calm down and enjoy it. It generally helps if you're at least slightly arroused. So try some stroking, some foreplay, or watch some porn to get you in the mood. If your partner is joining in the fun, have them insert their middle finger into the anus approximately 2-3 inches (up to the second knuckle or a little more) then hook their finger up. They should feel a cushiony soft organ at the tip of their finger. That is the prostate, the P-spot. If you're going alone and using a toy designed for P-spot stimulation then it shouldn't be hard to find. Most of these toys are curved just right, so that all you have to do is slide it in and hook it towards your cock. You'll know when you've hit the right spot. Everyone is different, so techniques and sensitivities will vary. I, for one, like a lot of pressure on my P-spot for stimulation; you might need very little. Experiment and see what works for you.
A word of caution - there are products on the market intended for use in anal sex that I suggest you do not use. These products are desensitizing topical ointments and lubricants. The reason I don't recommend using them is because of the desensitizing effects. You don't want to make your ass numb. You need to be able to feel what's going on. If it hurts, you need to slow down and maybe try something different. If you numb the area you have no way of knowing if what you're doing is really causing damage to tissue or not. There is a product I do recommend for anal play. It's made by Intimate Organics and it's an organic, herbal relaxing spray. It literally relaxes the sphincter muscle, making entry easier, with NO anesthetic effects.
I recommend the Prostate Stimulator on the right, especially if you're interested in getting your partner involved. It's a good beginner's toy from Pipedream. The nub on the front of the handle is for stimulating the Perineum. Don’t forget to choose a good lubricant, one that will make things easier and won’t give out on you right in the middle of your fun. Try the Pink Water lube. I have other recommendations if you’re interested. Just give me a call or send an email.
So please don’t let those old hang-ups keep you from enjoying yourself. Besides, aren’t you bored by now of only getting stimulation from your cock, occasionally your balls, and very rarely your nipples? Open up your mind, set aside the stigmas, expand your horizons and enjoy everything life has to give you, including mind-blowing orgasms.
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